How would you feel if someone felt this way about you? The same thing happens to your energy when you feel this way about yourself.
| A client told me how she was able to manifest small things during a coaching session last week. However, when it came to her business, she wasn’t closing people on her offers.
She had big programs and small ones. Lately, she just wasn’t successful in selling anything. Several times during her session, she was hard on herself because things went wrong. “Why did I attract people who don’t have money? Even if they have the money and need what I do (and she does it well), they don’t get back with me. What am I doing wrong?” Despite her positive sounding words, she communicated a non-verbal message that there’s something wrong with her. People aren’t as attracted to people who don’t feel good about themselves, unless it mirrors how they feel about themselves or their opinion of you. It often brings up guilt, blame and shame. When I pointed out how she consistently was judging herself, she told me, “I had critical parents and never got compliments from them. Now I feel that if I can’t do things perfectly, there’s something wrong with me.” Have you ever felt like her or questioned yourself in a condemning way, too? “I’m building that muscle of approving of myself, but my habit of doing the opposite has been stronger.” As like attracts like, the only thing that happens when you’re negative is that you attract more negativity. That puts you in an energetic conundrum because the more you feel good, the more success you attract. When you don’t feel good, your energy attracts more things that keep you from feeling good. This includes business, money, health, weight, people and your happiness. Disapproving of yourself doesn’t feel good. Even if it momentarily motivates you to action, success won’t last because there’s negative energy at its foundation. The universe and others “hear” your disapproval energy, and they give you back more of the same — more things to disapprove of. The energy of disapproving of yourself, others and situations is why you get (or don’t get) what you want! The more you let go of disapproval energy, the more you’ll attract your cherished goals. What a sacrifice. To get what you really want, you have to feel good about yourself! Right after our session, my client had two consultations to present her offers. She emailed me this after she talked with them: I had two prospects back to back after I talked to you, and both took my BIG packages!! Yay! You’re a miracle worker, Virginia. I’m grateful she gave me permission to share her story with you.
My last post was titled “What Do People Hear You Say When You’re Not Talking?” What they “hear” is the energy you transmit. Dogs sense energy, such as fear. People sense energy, too. A reason why first impressions are quick is that it takes a fraction of a second for people to read your energy. People hear you disapproving or approving of yourself even when you don’t speak or say all the right words. Experiment with approving of yourself. And what a price you’ll pay for doing it. You’ll feel good!
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