Are You Selling Yourself Out? Probably!

Ever wonder why some people are crazymakers?

Friend,

“All unhappiness is caused by our trying to be limited, to be an ego. The more we are our Self, the happier we are. We will never be completely happy until we are completely being our Self.”

Lester Levenson

I’m writing this today because I’ve observed many people UNCONSCIOUSLY giving their power away. But they think their thinking is logical.

We give our power away when we allow others, the news, work, relationships, health, money, events, politics, etc. to upset or limit us or emotionally react in a negative way. In doing so, we deplete our energy – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

The ego is a false identity that we think is real. It’s the part of us that’s fearful, worries, complains, gets angry and more.

I created the Liberation of Lunacy technique to help people gain mastery over the tyranny of our minds… that which we think is real, but it’s not!

Here’s an excerpt:

Can you remember times when you felt afraid, stuck, taken advantage of, frustrated, judgmental, overwhelmed, resistant, critical, hard on yourself, worried, stressed, confused, addicted or powerless – you’ve done it all and nothing helps? These are moments you were manipulated by the ego.

Just like all your bites can come from one mosquito, all of your negative emotions come from one source – the ego.

Liberation of Lunacy (LoL) Technique

Examples about truly lovely, nice people:

• A man felt uncomfortable complaining with me. He wanted to spend endless time analyzing his complaints or, if we looked at them from a more positive perspective, he’d change the subject. He resisted attempts to let go of his negativity and be free of the control his ego had on him. Even though his fears prompted him to make decisions that created financial losses, he continued to take actions based on his fears. But, despite evidence of how negativity literally doesn’t pay, he didn’t believe being positive and the Law of Attraction works – like attracts like.
• A sweet woman got terribly upset while sharing an experience with me and told me to “F” off when she became increasingly, emotionally unhinged. She felt she wasn’t being heard, and what she raged about was blaming someone else, her fears, self-justified anger and negativity. She was completely closed off to hearing a more expansive perspective, which she translated to my not hearing her. Later when I communicated with her about it, her response showed that she whitewashed her memory and changed her story about what she previously shared at length. What happens is that in the moment the ego is in control, it can’t hear what doesn’t affirm it. Then it can attack.
• A woman was distraught, crying and ranting, because she didn’t have a million dollar podcast contract like Joe Rogan. It was 10 AM on a Saturday, and it sounded like she’d been drinking. She really tried to get me to react and agree with her. I told her I wasn’t going to allow her to manipulate me emotionally the way she wanted. In response, she squealed in pain like an alien in the movies. She doesn’t even have a podcast or a blog.
• Several others dished out excuses. Excuses that were based on limited thinking. We’d address one, and 30 minutes later another would appear. Address that, but actually there was another issue that popped up soon after. On and on. Some felt quite self-justified, too. As I believe in these people (I wouldn’t continue that conversation with just anyone), I showed another way at looking at their concerns. Some were able to connect the dots and see their own games or at least change their behavior and be proactive.
• Some created a story about their (mis)interpretation of an experience or event, believed their own perception/ lies, then copped an attitude based on their limited perspectives. Of course, someone else is to blame. Drama ensues. The ego doesn’t like to be wrong.

Can you see why it’s lunacy? Have things like this happened to you? Have you done some variation of these to others? Probably.

That’s what occurs until we learn to break free of the ego’s control, replaced by emotional mastery and an observer or Soul perspective.

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The ego tries to pull others into its illusions and can get upset when they won’t play their games…. especially if they won’t go along with them as they did in the past.

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I write these stories so that you might see how the ego controls. Because your ego is the source of every time you limit yourself or feel limiting emotions. Also, you can see how others try to control you.

Fear not. You are more courageous than you may believe.

Peace is a Soul-sourced emotion, the real You, that’s more powerful than anger, blame, frustration, confusion, doubt, negative storytelling, excuses and more. When you find peace within, you’ll find answers to your most bothersome questions. You go beyond limited thinking about what’s possible to discovering freedom and infinite possibilities.

How? Start by recognizing the ego’s patterns. Take your power back. You don’t have to sell yourself out.

Virginia Goszewska, September 12, 2022

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Money and Telling a Guy I Didn’t Need Him

When you chase after people and money, they run in the other direction.

We met by chance when he was house hunting, and I just happened to be outside a home that I bought but hadn’t moved into yet.

After our brief meeting, he purchased the house next door because he created a fantasy about the two of us getting married.

This sweet man desperately wanted a woman.

Even as time went on, he didn’t have an interest to know me, my beliefs, what I do or if I cared about him. I was “nice,” and that’s all that mattered.

He so needed to feel loved. It was really all about him.

Needy people try to get fulfillment from something outside of themselves that they haven’t found within.

When he put serious moves on me, I told him that I didn’t need him.

I then learned that he heard this before when his ex-wife said the same thing on her way out the door.

I didn’t say it to hurt him. I’ve learned to guide my life by choice not neediness, especially when it comes to relationships.

Eventually, he found someone in a place of hardship who literally needed help. They got married, and he moved.

I see them on occasion. Now that the crisis has passed, they don’t look too happy together.

Whatever you chase after, because you need it, runs in the other direction.

This can appear to be a brain twister, but follow along because it’s a key to life.

It’s the reason you can have good relationships and, well, everything.

If you want or need a relationship, it means you don’t have one. Energetically, something’s missing. Lack attracts lack. You’re left wanting but not having.

However, when you come from a place of having, you attract more of what you have to you.  From an energy perspective, it doesn’t matter if you actually have it. The key is that you have the feeling within that you do.

It’s the same with needing business or money. If you need it, you push it away.

You can have anything you choose, as long as you don’t want it.

I told you this can be a brain twister. The more you get it, though, changes your life for the better.

When you want something, you’re sending out the energy of lack or not enough, what you don’t have.

Lack energy implies what you want is out there somewhere, but you don’t have it. You’re incomplete. So it will always be out there somewhere.

Ever run after a child or pet? They run the other way.

Ever have someone want you and chase after you? You feel like running and hiding.

Your goals and money will run away from you, too, if they’re out there somewhere and you’re chasing them.

Do you choose to want more or to actually have it?

This isn’t double talk. Consider it this way. Wanting and having are opposing energies.

You can’t drive forward and in reverse at the same time. At best, you’d go in circles.

The way out of this conundrum?

Let go.

To break free of self-sabotaging habits is why I created my Liberation of Lunacy (LoL) technique…  because we’re all a little crazy when the ego takes over and fills us with fear, anxiety, neediness, limit and doubt.

Instead of needing more money, business, time or a relationship, come from a place of “all your needs are met beyond your wildest expectation.”

That’s a first step in letting go.

Today is your day.

Total eclipse.

Ready to have your life eclipse for the better?

Claim how.

Be sure to include having fun and living with gusto!

With gratitude,

Virginia

P.S. Know someone who might enjoy reading this? Please forward.

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support.

I help them be richly compensated doing what they love by connecting with their Soul’s goals.

Curious how the Liberation of Lunacy (LoL) technique can help you? Contact me for a complimentary
Soulgoals’ Break-free Session.

Email me at virginia@soulgoals.com

Originally posted on my Soulgoals’ Blog, August 21, 2017 

Copyright © 2022 Soulgoals, All rights reserved.

Tyranny or Freedom?

While living in Washington, D.C., I’d park my car, run up 58 steps and be in awe at the towering and erect presence of one of the great men who founded the United States of America. Thomas Jefferson also served as our third President from 1801 to 1809.

I sometimes visited the Jefferson Memorial when I could be alone in this hallowed sanctum. It was possible to do because it’s open around the clock.

Standing amidst the white marble steps and building, my eyes would gaze at the 129′ bronze statue and excerpts of the Declaration of Independence, whose principal author was Jefferson.

However, the reason I kept returning was to slowly turn in a circle to read the inscription under the dome:

“I have sworn upon the altar of God eternal hostility against every form of tyranny over the mind of man.”  Thomas Jefferson to Dr. Benjamin Rush, September 23, 1800.

I didn’t realize at the time how these words, which still bring tears to my eyes, would be emblazoned within me. They inspired my lifetime passion, “upon the altar of God,” to help others and myself live in freedom through liberation of the “tyranny over the mind of man.”

The definition of tyranny includes the oppression, often cruel, of people or a government over others. Another aspect is an unreasonable or arbitrary use of power or control.

For me, there’s a twist to this. It reminds me of a quote by American Navy Commodore Oliver Hazard Perry in 1813.  Most famously, it was quipped by cartoonist Walt Kelly on a couple of Earth Day posters when Pogo said:

The voice in your head, motivated by an insecure ego, can be your enemy and create the greatest form of tyranny.

These inner rants can be cruel, unreasonable, oppressive and arbitrary. If you allow this to dominate, you relinquish control of your life.

Know that you have the power of choice! 

You can choose to listen to your Essence, instead.

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Especially those familiar with my teachings about “choosing,” you might be interested in this. When I was thirty years old, I had the first sentence of the following quote by Jefferson on a wall plate of a light switch:

“Freedom is the right to choose: the right to create for oneself the alternatives of choice. Without the possibility of choice, and the exercise of choice, a man is not a man but a member, an instrument, a thing.”

Pondering this message regularly, I knew there was more to it than I could understand at the time. I’m now aware of this:

We are free to choose. We are so free, we can choose fear or freedom.

We choose our thoughts, which impact our emotions, which creates our lives. What hinders our freedom is allowing our minds to be tyrannized by any limiting beliefs. From anyone. From any circumstance or condition. From the tyrannical inner voice.

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A client showed me a picture of a tow truck driver who quickly and skillfully used multiple cables to turn upright a parked truck that had been hit by a car and had completely flipped over.

The driver was very good-natured, and his demeanor radiated a cheerful attitude and peace.

Both of his arms stopped below his elbows.

He had a prosthetic leg, too.

He is a living demonstration of choosing his attitude and outlook on life. He wasn’t tyrannized by his physical condition and whatever caused it.

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We in America celebrate our country’s birthday on the Fourth of July, our Independence Day. It’s a time of freedom.

While talking with others about a life-changing break for freedom during the week of July 4th when I was 20, others shared their stories of freedom that happened around this time, too.

Soon, the French will celebrate their day of freedom on July 14, Bastille Day.

Tyranny or freedom?

You can choose to hold in your mind’s eye the freedom and intentions that our forefathers envisioned while founding the United States.

What freedom and independence do you choose for you?

Start with freeing yourself from the tyranny of your mind, where nothing and nobody can touch you.

With gratitude,

Virginia

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I work with people, at any age, who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love.

The Voice in Your Head Lies

Even if you appear coordinated and that your life fits together, what’s going on in your thinking might leave you feeling like a shell with a confused head. Or maybe you’ve been telling yourself that your life is a mess no matter which way you look at it. Or you feel blessed that all is well, but you wonder how to elevate your set point to a higher altitude you’ve never experienced before. Conflicting voices in your head can torment you. Do any of these sound familiar? You and nothing you do is good enough. What’s wrong with you? You’re never going to get ahead. You screwed up, again. What a loser. What makes you think anything’s gonna change? It’s not going to work, so why chance it? You’ve tried before and you remember how bad it turned out, so what’s the use of trying again? You oughta be a lot further ahead than where you are now… especially at your age. There are countless ways to beat yourself up. What if a “friend” said things to you like this, on and on and on? For a while, you might feel immobilized – how could you do anything with this weight on you? Why bother taking action? With the wind taken out of your sails, you’re left with no energy. Instead, procrastinate. Lose interest.  Be indecisive. Watch too much TV. After all, you might make another mistake. Play it safe. Do nothing. Another option is feeling vengeful and lashing out against the world. How dare they?! How can you do this to me? Or be arrogant and proud. They think they’re all that and then some. Well, I’ll put them in their place. When you snapped out of your stupor from getting way too many demoralizing hits below the belt, you’d either want to leave, give them a piece of your mind or shorten any air time you’d give them. You don’t have to put up with this from others. Most importantly, you don’t have to put up with badgering thoughts that are on instant replay in your brain! How can you stop the momentum of that train on its way to become a wreck? When you stop to listen to the conversation in your head and observe it, you might notice something very important. It lies. That negativity is not the truth. Do you like liars? Probably not. So stop listening to these horror stories. They’re NOT true! Instead of acting like an obedient servant to lunacy – yours or others – choose to stop it. That’s why I named my technique Liberation of Lunacy because when the ego takes over, we’re all a little crazy. Instead, ASK for your essence to be in the driver’s seat of your life and business. You’re a Divine child. You’re more than good enough. If you diss you, you diss your Creator. The rest of that silly stuff is only a program in your head, and you can replace that software. You can start by making a choice. What thoughts, ideas or outcomes do you choose instead? I choose _________________________. You’re that powerful so if you choose, it makes a difference. Really. Choose to let go of the burdensome yoke of enslavement you’ve been carrying. Choose to be free. Now don’t go straddling the fence between listening to goofy ideas and choosing. Perching on pointy fence tops is very uncomfortable. You have a choice to listen to those inane voices in your head or not. How do I know they’re not telling you the truth? Because your essence never talks to you like this. Your spirit is always supportive. It may lovingly ask what you learned, but it never disparages you. Here’s another approach. The next time the dictator/ victim/ bully/ procrastinator/ naysayer in your head tells you that you can’t do something, say with resolve, “Watch me do it. Watch me.” With gratitude, Virginia

I work with people who choose to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how, feel stuck or would benefit from new tools or support. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love. Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

TIP: My Embarrassment – Kinda

Full disclosure: I was sitting on the… well, where I was sitting is beside the point. Except that I just woke up and felt relaxed.

The crazy thought came to me: what would I say if someone asked this question. Can you name an embarrassing moment?

The only thing that came to mind is what if a client saw me the way I look now.

The night before I returned home at midnight after seeing Patrizio in concert (reference to last week’s TIP) and would travel soon to be with a friend and see him perform again that night.

Before I left, however, I decided to book a Liberation of Lunacy phone session (LoL) with a new client. LoL is a technique I created to liberate fear, anxiety, lack, limit and doubt through your power of choice, perspective, love and putting your Essence in charge.

Lunacy because we’re all a little crazy when our ego’s in charge.

Liberation because people feel tremendous relief from the mental and emotional burdens they’ve been carrying. They free themselves to pursue their goals in a bigger way and get powerful results.

Usually I’m showered and dressed before my sessions. I feel fresher and more present.

With my time considerations, I decided to wear a lightweight bathrobe that I’ve used for projects around the house – paint stained and with, shall I delicately call it, a plunging and very revealing neckline.

During her session, we were deeply focused to help her release.

Apparently, there’s a beep that goes off when FaceTime turns on. I didn’t hear it but suddenly noticed that I was seeing a face instead of the phone’s keypad.

I asked what happened, and she said FaceTime came on. I stumbled around to turn it off, confusing because I already had it turned off in my setting.

I was so engaged in the process that I didn’t consider the ramifications of a new client observing her coach she’s never met in what could be a test run for Halloween.

Oh well. Nothing I could do about it. It is what it is. Time to get ready to leave.

However, the next day during a follow up call, I asked about it. She informed me about the beeps and had the good grace to turn FaceTime off when she realized what was happening.

That explains why her voice didn’t reflect shock.

Here’s the powerful part.

I casually had the thought that morning. I had no resistance to it happening because it was playful, mental banter. Never even considered any real consequences.

There was no wondering if I could create such a scene. No doubt to gnaw at me. No fear or anxiety. Just a pure idea, a simple thought going out into the universe.

Within a couple of hours, what I claimed as an embarrassing moment occurred.

Law of Attraction at work.

Whatever we focus on comes to pass. Casual thoughts included. Silly thoughts. Angry thoughts. Frustrating thoughts. Any thought.

Thoughts create feelings. Our feelings manifest.

We are that powerful.

You are that powerful.

So if you don’t like something in your business or life, don’t feed it by thinking about it.

Think about something else.

It’s your life. Don’t turn your power and happiness over to another person, a politician, someone who “done you wrong,” or any situation – even if it feels hopeless.

There’s always a way out!

I spent the weekend watching The Truth About Cancer Ultimate Live Symposium online with nearly 50 world-renowned doctors and experts with a mission to educate, expose and eradicate cancer. The information works for any illness.

Cancer and other diseases are not death sentences.

There are countless alternative modalities and strategies for healing that work! Redirect your focus to see them and take action.

We always have a choice: hold onto old beliefs or be open to transform into something more wonderful.

This is true for your health, your business, your finances, your life.

Choice: at times, needlessly suffer or die leaving loved ones behind or be open to change.

It’s about education. Outside your box exists a magnificent world of possibilities.

YouTube videos on the life-saving work of The Truth About Cancer is a great place to start for your health.  

Your TIP is to use your power on YOUR behalf to consciously create what you choose.

Masterminders will recognize that this is inspired by Resolved for Results Principle #6:

I believe I am worthy and deserve to achieve my goals or something better, and I choose to use my personal empowerment on my behalf which allows me to serve life more fully.

There is a new Resolved for Results mastermind team forming, which includes the classy and dynamic woman who graciously turned off FaceTime without missing a beat.

If you have a yearning to break-free of your current circumstances and be richly compensated doing what you love in a BIGGER way (or even clarifying what that is), this is your invitation.

Email me at vg@ResolvedForResults.com to learn more.

Recently I talked with a Masterminder who told me that when she was little she prayed and prayed to make her the person God wanted her to be – a good person and here to do something. Now in her sixties, for the first time ever, it’s happened. No more low self-esteem. She’s happy, shares her many talents and lives everyday with meaning and gusto, feeling great about herself and life.

Imagine how much you can manifest with joy and by skipping the embarrassing hard parts.

Annoyed? Frustrated? Worried?

Thoughts can be like a dog with a bone where you just can’t let go, incapable to stop chewing on them for hours, days, weeks. Or a lifetime. The same story replayed over and over in your head. We’re all programmed with certain emotions. I call them emotional defaults. For example, annoyance, frustration or worry could rule. Even if a problem is solved, something else will be the cause for more frustration, annoyance or worry. If you notice, it’s a habit. It’s the same emotion you feel over and over again. If one of your defaults is frustration, for example, there will often be something around to frustrate you. Newton’s first law of motion is inertia. A body in motion tends to stay in motion unless acted on by an external force. So it is with your thinking, too. Unless something stops this trajectory, people could be annoyed, frustrated or worried, complaining non-stop in their heads or to others, often about people, circumstances or beating themselves up. Once on a long, solo road trip, I grumbled about the same thoughts and “justifiable” anger… repeatedly… for hours. Finally, on an open stretch of road in West Texas, I became bored and tired of my internal conversation. There was no one around to talk/whine to which often acts like a pressure release valve, so I took responsibility for my own thoughts and emotions. Because I was willing to let go, an idea came to play a game called “Change Your Perspective.”  Then, other perspectives emerged, new ways to look at the situation. I stopped being upset and acting like a victim by blaming. I was able to let it go and move on. Since then, I’ve learned that this negative thinking cycle is a function of the ego. If we let it have its way, it will consume us with misery. When you’re obsessed with negative thoughts, you’ve turned your life over to your ego. Everyone has a choice of how to think and feel regardless of their circumstances. So do you. After a disaster, people with different viewpoints talk about their experience. Some focus on what they’ve lost, others are grateful for what they still have. Your TIP is that you don’t have to be a prisoner of your own mind. Just as trees next to a lake are reflected in the water, your attitudes are reflected in your life. If you don’t like what you see, you CAN change it. Write about what you’re thinking and feeling. Write how you can change your perspective. To let it go, burn or shred it. Writing by hand and not the computer brings more clarity, perspective and releases negative energy. Set an intention that you’re open to receive answers and break free. You may have resistance at first because your ego wants your thoughts to hold you in old, familiar patterns. Stuck? Ask for divine assistance. This works in business, too. An employee came to her manager, who’s a masterminder, about a complaint.  She told him to write about it and then shred it in the office shredder. He said that no one ever told him that before. She used to get upset about office politics. She shifted her perspective so now it no longer affects her. When you clear mental and emotional space, you have room for your goals to manifest and for greater peace and happiness to flourish. Why did I choose this topic today? Because when I realized I was rehashing the same topic in my thoughts for a couple of days, I knew it was time to write. I resisted. I didn’t want to journal. Didn’t think it would do any good. And in a few minutes after writing – POOF, I let it go. By the way, if you have recurring patterns and could use more help, ask me about an LoL session – Liberation of Lunacy – because we’re all a little crazy when our ego is in charge.