Has This Kept You Up at Night?

Have any of these kept you up at night? Procrastination. Fear of making a (wrong) decision or making a mistake. Trying to figure out what you’re going to do. Indecisive. Avoid people or dealing with things. Have trouble marketing yourself or asking for the sale. Averse to taking risks. Don’t stand up for yourself. Afraid to speak up. Let others control you. Need to fit in. Turn into a chameleon to blend in with others. Let people run over you. Have a hard time being yourself (whoever that is). Wonder what people will say or think. Say yes when you want to say no. What bogeyman lies beneath this thinking? Personal honesty reveals a deeper insight beyond blaming circumstances. During multiple mastermind group meetings, I noticed a theme that held people back until they got wise to a game the ego was playing. It reminds me of a scene from the 1986 comedy The Money Pit with Tom Hanks (who played Walter) and Shelly Long. Rock star, 12-year-old Benny lounged in his mansion smoking a cigarette while chics waited for him in the Jacuzzi. His help feared him, and his mother wore a maid’s uniform while waiting on him hand and foot. His temper tantrum, when he refused to loan Walter money, revealed a spoiled, insecure, little boy. Walter: There is a house I want to buy. Benny: Let’s cut to the chase, okay? What do you want? Walter: I want you to loan me $200,000 in cash. Benny: No. Walter: [raising his voice] Benny. Benny: You shout at me? Walter: I shout at you! I need that money, and you are going to loan it to me. Benny: No, I won’t! Walter: Yes, you will! Benny: No, no, no! Walter: Yes, you will! I saved you ten times that in taxes last year. Benny: So what? Walter: Benny, if you don’t loan me that money. I’ll… Benny: You’ll what? Huh? You’ll what? Walter: I’ll…not like you anymore! [Long pause and subdued.] Benny: …All right. Walter: Thanks. Here’s the funny clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LY5dV3xghY A leading cause of fear is wanting approval, so people limit themselves by worrying about what others will think. A client procrastinated making a big decision. During a session, she realized she was afraid of her family’s disapproval if she didn’t get it right… again. When the light turned on for her, she was able to research her options. She got clarity, aligned her energy with her decision by feeling good about her choice, and then took action. Even if she made another unwanted mistake, she knew she could choose again. She chose wisely. Since then, her business is at the highest it’s been in years. Several clients realized that they were so intent on being nice to others that they weren’t nice to themselves. Resolved for Results Mastermind Principle #3 provided guidance: “I trust my Self and listen to the voice within.” This served as a valuable GPS instead of the need to people please. Nobody can please everybody. There will always be those who won’t like you or what you do. How much simpler life is to accept that instead of resisting it. Don’t let fear of disapproval hold you down. Keep moving forward anyway with good intentions. You have no control over what others think, but you can tune in to your Self and take charge of what you think about you. Listening to your Self is part of your innate intelligence, so you can do this. How? Choose to redirect your focus to hear You. With practice, your ability improves. A key is to love and accept yourself just the way you are. You’ll sleep better at night, too. With gratitude, Virginia P.S. Know someone who might be uplifted by reading this? Please forward. Copyright © 2017 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.

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TIP: Are Foolish Consistencies Keeping You Stuck?

“A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds.” Ralph Waldo Emerson from his essay “Self-Reliance” Are you thinking for yourself?Or are you making current choices based on past decisions or on what other people think? Holding onto fixed ideas and not being open to new ones is an example of a foolish consistency, and it can keep you stuck. A foolish consistency can affect your heart. A man, who places a high value on keeping his word, made a promise to repair expensive equipment and gift it to a friend. Personally, giving this gift meant a great deal to him. After several months, he realized the equipment couldn’t be repaired. He tried really hard to make the unworkable workable. When he couldn’t, it meant he couldn’t keep his word and couldn’t give this gift, both of which caused him extreme, emotional stress. He took this to heart. He took a lot of things to heart. Including a heart attack. He let go of the foolish consistencies and now is doing great. A foolish consistency can affect your goals. Years ago, I had a plan of how I thought things should work. First, I’d write my course, and then I’d buy a house. What happened is that moving came first, and this allowed me to be in a better environment. A foolish consistency would’ve been to insist on living in a space that wasn’t conducive to writing. To this day, I’m careful not to be misled by my preconceived ideas, aka foolish consistencies, about what comes first and who’s on second.  See what life is presenting at the moment. New ways often exceed one’s wildest expectation about how things can work out. A foolish consistency can affect your money. In spite of her best efforts and through no fault of her credit report, a silly regulation stopped a woman from refinancing to get money she needed. At first, she was disappointed. Not being bogged down with a foolish consistency, she refocused her thinking on this or something better. Her business skyrocketed, and she made $18,000 in one month (far exceeding her past, monthly incomes) with many more deals in her pipeline. Little minds worry about a foolish consistency. Greater minds align with the moment. Your TIP is to use your great mind! Let go of your limiting, foolish consistencies, and be open to new ideas to receive what you want. Challenge the way you think and usually do things, especially if you feel stuck or you’re trying to break free into something better. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results. If you’ve tried something new and you’re beating yourself up because it didn’t work the way you thought – stop it! Getting down on yourself is not helping. Give yourself a chance to align with a different track to success, and be open to receive something better. Breathe. Listen within. Your inner wisdom is 100% on your side to guide you from stuck to success. Be willing to receive its messages. I work with people who long to share their gifts or business in a BIGGER way but don’t know how or feel stuck. I help them ignite their Soul’s goals and be richly compensated doing what they love. For more information on upcoming masterminding teams or a complimentary Do What You Love Break-Free Session, email me at vg@ResolvedForResults.com Copyright © 2016 Resolved for Results, All rights reserved.