A family man in his early thirties was happily employed at a well-paying job for seven years. The young couple was ecstatic when they were able to purchase their own home.
Six months later, the business closed its doors. Tired and scared, his three replacement jobs weren’t generating enough income to meet expenses.
During our casual conversation, he detailed reasons why his former job was ideal and unique… and he hasn’t been and wouldn’t be able to find anything that would replace it. His story centered on loss and lack.
An undercurrent of fear crashed against his quiet desperation.
Unbeknownst to him, his portrayal of “telling it like it is” was launching him on a hopeless trajectory of not enough, dooming himself to repeat his cycle of things not working.
I gently brought up alternate perspectives. Other possibilities were available. It would be hard to find them if he thought they didn’t exist.
A couple of days later, I was told that his attitude was much lighter and optimistic. Feeling stuck shifted to how he could find better employment. He started writing plans to follow his passion as a musician.
Don’t fall for the ego’s seduction!
The ego is a false identity and a clever bugger. It knows how to bamboozle you into feeling bad about yourself, regret your choices and wonder if your life has any more meaning than a slug.
When you believe your sad emotions are telling you the truth, you can get lost in thinking, thinking, thinking, and trying to figure out what you’re going to do about… anything. Everything. That’s the ego for you; but it’s NOT you!
The ego will lure you to doubt yourself into believing that you can’t break free of your situation.
When you buy into negative “logic,” you feel bad. You can feel like you’re on a hamster wheel of you’re not enough, nothing you do is good enough, and you don’t have enough. You obsess and feel like chopped liver (especially unpalatable to vegetarians). You then attract more of the same. The cycle continues.
Remember, you are master of your fate.
Stop arguing with your thoughts of doubt, limit, confusion and fear. Instead, boost your confidence, and appreciate yourself! Look at the good you do and have done.
If you’re not finding positives in your finances or work, look to what you might consider simple things, such as being kind to animals. Build from there. Little steps add up to big ones.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate,
I am the captain of my soul.
William Ernest Henley, 1849 – 1903
TIP: Be Master of Your Fate
Listen to conversations that repeat in your head. Journal to let the negative ones go AND continue to write to gain perspective.
Next, write about your ideal outcome and feel the enthusiasm as if it or something better were already happening.
Set an intention that insights and direction will emerge. When they do, take action.
No matter what’s happening in your life, starting now, choose to be the master of your fate.
So be it!
Edited repost from Soulgoals’ Archives December 3, 2015
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