Delivery rooms can be highly charged environments containing the potential of life or death.
While going through a particularly hard labor during the birth of her second child, my friend was directed to push.
The attendants’ attitudes and firm voices basically told her, we know you’re tired, but stop being so lazy and push. By the fourth and fifth time of asking her to push, they raised their voices and got abusive and angrier. Don’t be such a baby and a wimp. PUSH!
My friend refused, in spite of what the experts demanded her to do. At one point she told them, “I won’t push.”
Finally, the doctor checked the cord and learned it was coiled around her baby’s neck. He had to physically go in and cut it loose. The baby was born blue and not breathing. They gave him mouth-to-mouth resuscitation. He survived and was healthy.
The mother later asked the doctor that if she had pushed when everyone said, would she have strangled her baby. He replied, “Yes.”
The mom was the ultimate expert at the moment. She was aware of her body and inner guidance and followed it, although she didn’t know why. She knew she wouldn’t push regardless of what others told her. If she had, the ending of that story wouldn’t be happy.
Her first baby was born at home, by choice, and that delivery was smooth and easy.
Her second baby was different. At night, after hard labor started, she thought how easy it would be to have the baby at home. But because they planned a hospital birth, she went through the motions to fulfill that plan.
She said if she followed her guidance in the first place, what her mother’s intuition told her, she wouldn’t have gone through the agonizing labor, uterine exhaustion and subsequent complications for her baby.
The lesson? Trust herself. She didn’t need to placate others and what they wanted, regardless of who they are, but instead take a stand for her baby and herself.
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Tags: Asking mother to push, Born blue, Doctors in delivery room, follow inner guidance, Home birth, Life or death, Safe delivery, Trust yourself
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