Annoyed? Frustrated? Worried?

Thoughts can be like a dog with a bone where you just can’t let go, incapable to stop chewing on them for hours, days, weeks. Or a lifetime. The same story replayed over and over in your head. We’re all programmed with certain emotions. I call them emotional defaults. For example, annoyance, frustration or worry could rule. Even if a problem is solved, something else will be the cause for more frustration, annoyance or worry. If you notice, it’s a habit. It’s the same emotion you feel over and over again. If one of your defaults is frustration, for example, there will often be something around to frustrate you. Newton’s first law of motion is inertia. A body in motion tends to stay in motion unless acted on by an external force. So it is with your thinking, too. Unless something stops this trajectory, people could be annoyed, frustrated or worried, complaining non-stop in their heads or to others, often about people, circumstances or beating themselves up. Once on a long, solo road trip, I grumbled about the same thoughts and “justifiable” anger… repeatedly… for hours. Finally, on an open stretch of road in West Texas, I became bored and tired of my internal conversation. There was no one around to talk/whine to which often acts like a pressure release valve, so I took responsibility for my own thoughts and emotions. Because I was willing to let go, an idea came to play a game called “Change Your Perspective.”  Then, other perspectives emerged, new ways to look at the situation. I stopped being upset and acting like a victim by blaming. I was able to let it go and move on. Since then, I’ve learned that this negative thinking cycle is a function of the ego. If we let it have its way, it will consume us with misery. When you’re obsessed with negative thoughts, you’ve turned your life over to your ego. Everyone has a choice of how to think and feel regardless of their circumstances. So do you. After a disaster, people with different viewpoints talk about their experience. Some focus on what they’ve lost, others are grateful for what they still have. Your TIP is that you don’t have to be a prisoner of your own mind. Just as trees next to a lake are reflected in the water, your attitudes are reflected in your life. If you don’t like what you see, you CAN change it. Write about what you’re thinking and feeling. Write how you can change your perspective. To let it go, burn or shred it. Writing by hand and not the computer brings more clarity, perspective and releases negative energy. Set an intention that you’re open to receive answers and break free. You may have resistance at first because your ego wants your thoughts to hold you in old, familiar patterns. Stuck? Ask for divine assistance. This works in business, too. An employee came to her manager, who’s a masterminder, about a complaint.  She told him to write about it and then shred it in the office shredder. He said that no one ever told him that before. She used to get upset about office politics. She shifted her perspective so now it no longer affects her. When you clear mental and emotional space, you have room for your goals to manifest and for greater peace and happiness to flourish. Why did I choose this topic today? Because when I realized I was rehashing the same topic in my thoughts for a couple of days, I knew it was time to write. I resisted. I didn’t want to journal. Didn’t think it would do any good. And in a few minutes after writing – POOF, I let it go. By the way, if you have recurring patterns and could use more help, ask me about an LoL session – Liberation of Lunacy – because we’re all a little crazy when our ego is in charge.

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