Are you familiar with the idea that you aren’t upset about what you think you’re upset about?
Say what? For example, if people irritate you at work, they could be reminding you of another person who bugged you in a similar way. Tracking it back even further, it reminds you of how you let someone talk you into doing something you didn’t want to do.
The thought of this has lingered with you like the smell of last week’s garbage– but, you’ve managed not to pay attention to it by wearing perfume. Covering up the odor appears to make everything fine.
But is it? If you get real honest with yourself, people at work remind you of how, when you let yourself get talked into something, you gave your power away … and you’re really angry at yourself for having done so. By golly, you’re not going to do that again.
However, because you covered it up with perfume and acted like everything was okay, you forgot about the original smell. That is until something even hints at making you feel the same way and begins to uncover the stinkin’ thinkin’ you’ve so cleverly kept hidden – well, how dare they?
In actuality, they didn’t mean it the way you interpreted it (or maybe they did), but that doesn’t matter. Now your upset is too great to do anything except get angrier, blame, point fingers, feel hurt, victimized, indignant or degraded – anything except take responsibility for your own feelings – unless you choose to take back your power.
This is what happens in this funny I Love Lucy skit Slowly I Turn where a bum confuses Lucy with his painful past.
By the end of the skit, regardless of the bum’s illusions, Lucy is clear on her boundaries.
For you? Instead of turning into a bum, you can journal with an intention to let go of what no longer serves you in order to put things in perspective and dump those stinky, charged emotions.
Now it’s your turn to enjoy Slowly I Turn… you can laugh them off, too.
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