ENJOY YOURSELF: YOU’LL MAKE MORE MONEY, GET MORE DONE

Do you take time to enjoy yourself? Or do you have so much to do that you:

  • Don’t have room in your busy schedule
  • Would be irresponsible to take time out to have fun
  • Would feel guilty and not really be able to enjoy yourself
  • Forgot what having fun looks/feels like
  • Don’t have energy left after taking care of others’ needs
  • Are busy trying to survive. Enjoy? You gotta be kidding!

Enjoying a field of wildflowers

A client had a business that would take a host of people to replace her. An accident last year slowed her down for a while, yet she still felt compelled to drive herself from one activity to the next.

Consistent cash flow eluded her. She’d let go of her fear of running out of money and then clutch worry and anxiety like a familiar, battered security blanket that tripped her as she walked.

She felt relief when she decided to transfer her business to an associate. Sales soared, and she “felt so good to let everything go.”

Then circumstances changed, and she decided to keep her business. Although money kept coming, fear crept back. “I don’t want this abundance to stop.”

Not long after she caught a cold, and it was painful to speak. What was going on? We put the pieces together.

Auto immune deficiencies and colds are signals your body sends that you don’t feel supported by yourself.

“Are you supporting yourself to be true to you or to a lifestyle you’ve created but don’t really enjoy? When you don’t feel supported, your physical body reflects it.

“That’s why it’s important to build healthy self-esteem as it affects everything. It raises your energy beyond illness. It helps you make choices to flow with life instead of floating in an illusion of confusion.”

Bells went off. She’d been getting nudges to take care of herself. She realized the cold was her spirit’s way of reminding her to slow down and not go back to old habits.

I asked, “You’re so busy. How can you have more time for you?”

She replied:

  • “It’s my time and that’s going to happen – nothing’s going to get in the way. I’ll just make it happen.
  • “I’ve cut back on my responsibilities, and I’m not taking on more”

Her being resolved came from her clarity.

What was she going to do with her extra time? Unless a space is filled when a vacuum is created, life will fill it. Often it’s with a default pattern, such as overwork, that was diligently released for more creative choices.

Her inner voice had been nudging her for weeks:

  • Use a massage gift certificate she had for a couple of years.
  • Hire a personal trainer. She didn’t like what she saw in the mirror.
  • Eat healthier foods.
  • Take 15 minutes every day to just sit on the porch for quiet time.
  • Have a journal nearby to write down ideas.

Her excitement quickly grew.

She realized that when she takes care of herself, she feels good. When she feels good, she generates more income. When she enjoys herself, she gets more done. But it takes trust.

Trust…to let go of doing whatever it takes to maintain status quo.

Courage… to follow your heart into an unknown change.

Faith… to believe you’re led wisely, beyond what you conceived with your best thinking.

Mama trusted her newborn to wait for her on my porch

No time to enjoy life?

If you feel you don’t have enough time, you’re reflecting lack – a lack of time. This echoes other forms of lack and not enough – such as money, love, fulfillment and health.

When you most need to take time for you is when you don’t think you have the time to take the time. (Yeah, read that one again.)

If you’ve been getting nudges to make a change, start now with small steps. If you don’t like how you started, start again and again, if needed.

The key is to do it without judgment. Don’t beat yourself up if you haven’t taken time to have fun and enjoy yourself. That’s totally counter productive.

Learning is a process – a layer at a time.

Ducks enjoying a walk in the park.

Life isn’t meant to be an endurance test. It’s a gift for you to appreciate and enjoy.

Everyone is going through a moment of truth now more than ever. It’s not just you.

  • Biggest fears are front and center.
  • What’s been denied or put off to look at can no longer be avoided.
  • Challenges are revealed to be dealt with.
  • The charade is fading, and it’s time to be real.

The process is usually uncomfortable so it gets your attention. Action becomes less painful than toleration.

Why is this happening to you? Because from your very essence, your soul is guiding you to live in greater joy, in closer alignment with who you really are. And, from this authentic place, express your gifts to the world.

It’s time for an awakening – to remember life is not meant to be laborious and a struggle but to be lived more true to you than ever before.

The question is how conscious do you choose to be in the process? How hard do you make it? You can choose to learn your lessons in a gentle way by decreeing it so.

At the end of your life you can look back with no regrets and say, “I learned a lot. I loved. And I enjoyed the ride.”

Enjoying life is your litmus test to know if you’re living in alignment with your soul.

Your head tells you what you think you should do, which isn’t always supportive to you or others. Your soul guides to be in a rhythm with life. Which is which? Ask yourself if you’re really enjoying all aspects of your life?

Make the connection. Let’s summarize:

  • When you feel good about you and enjoy life, you attract good things.
  • Because you feel life has more meaning than day-to-day concerns, you’re happier.
  • Because you’re happier, your activities flow more smoothly.
  • When it does, you make more money and are more effective at whatever you do.
  • This generates more productivity, and you get more done.
  • You live inspired, creative and express your precious gifts with the world.

Even in hardship, you can appreciate and enjoy being alive. It’s a perspective.

If you see life as hard, one challenge after another, waiting for the other shoe to fall, what else can go wrong – you’re not in the flow.

You can choose to see it as opportunities to learn and grow, appreciate acts of kindness and focus on gratitude and love.

Enjoying life is not frivolous, an aside to what’s really important or an optional cherry on the cake. It’s the cake.

What can you do to enjoy yourself more? Take time to do it because it’s YOUR life, and your life is not a means to an end. There are no brownie points to endure it. Instead, make conscious choices to enjoy your gift of being alive.

You deserve to enjoy yourself, and you are so very much worth it.

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2 Responses to “ENJOY YOURSELF: YOU’LL MAKE MORE MONEY, GET MORE DONE”

  1. Tresha Rodriguez Says:

    The charade is fading and it’s time to be real..
    What a great sentence… Giving me a moment
    to reflect on what the word “real” means to me.
    Am I true to myself, my soul and others?
    Does my word mean something? When I speak..
    Am I mindful of my words and how they affect myself and others? Do I take responsibility for
    my words, thoughts and actions? Before speaking.. Put yourself through 3 tests..
    1. Is it truthful? What Im about to say?
    2. Is it necessary to say what I’m about to say?
    3. Is it kind? Are my words kind?
    When I remember to exercise this test..
    I spend a lot more of my time in silence…:-)
    I enjoyed this blog, thank you Virginia..
    What does being “real” mean to you?
    Peace, Tresha

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    • Virginia Goszewska Says:

      Great comment and questions, Tresha. I asked these three questions of everyone at the beginning of the Success Team courses I facilitated in the 90s as a guideline for speaking while on the teams – is it true, necessary and kind?

      For me, being real is refocusing our inner camera. Attention has been centered on our egoic creations instead of our authentic selves.

      While growing up, we learned tactics to survive. Some examples are found in people pleasing. If I tell people what they want to hear and suppress what I really want to say. If I dutifully do things expected of me rather than what’s in my heart and what brings me joy. If I have the ideal life and job and 2.5 children and white picket fence that others think I should have even though my spirit feels empty. If I play the role expected of me although I feel lifeless… then maybe I’ll fit in, be loved and accepted.

      However, with this we won’t be loved for who we are but for our charade, so ultimately it’s unfulfilling.

      Our true essence is shining more brightly now and drying up the ego’s mask. The shell of who we believed we were supposed to be, how life and others should show up is cracking. And it can be very scary and disorienting because we carefully constructed this facade, and without it we think we won’t exist anymore. This isn’t true. We’ll be better than ever.

      It takes courage to be willing to be true to ourselves. However, the rewards are great.

      Going back to your three questions. When we align with our facade, we feel we have to blame others and do squirrely activities – running in any direction to create a distraction away from the precious nut. The facade believes it needs unncessary, untrue and unkind words to exist instead of taking personal responsibility.

      Being true to ourselves is a lifelong journey. As we traverse it we learn that what is real is love – unconditional love.
      You, I and everyone are love and loved.

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